You Can Count on Me: Trying to Take Care

<i>You Can Count on Me:</i> Trying to Take Care

In January of 2025, I was in New York City, walking down Broadway, when I passed the defunct Lincoln Plaza Cinemas at Sixty-Third Street. I saw many of the films I love most in the world in this theater, before it closed in 2018. Whenever I walk past its blank marquee, I feel its loss. But on this particular day I was instead flooded with a sense of gratitude. For some reason, I was struck by a visceral memory of leaving the theater in 2000 after seeing Kenneth Lonergan’s beautiful film You Can Count on Me.

The story of Sammy and Terry Prescott—who lose their parents when they are young children and must raise themselves without the help of any close, or at least trusted, relatives—had affected me deeply. Outside the theater twenty-five years later, I remembered walking down that same sidewalk after seeing it, and how I had been drawn into their story so completely that, for days afterward, I worried about Sammy, Terry, and Sammy’s son, Rudy, as if they were my own family.

For the record, that day in January was a few weeks before I was asked to write this piece for the Criterion Collection, so You Can Count on Me was not already on my mind. Why I thought of this one particular film on this one particular day is a mystery. All I know is that it’s a rare and wonderful movie that lingers in the minds of its viewers with such wrenching immediacy for, quite literally, decades.

When You Can Count on Me was released, I was already a huge fan of Kenneth Lonergan the playwright. I’d seen his play This Is Our Youth a few years earlier and been immediately won over by the empathy and understanding that he displays toward his deeply flawed but equally neglected characters. The young people at the play’s center might have been condemned as miscreants or excused as victims, but Lonergan neither judges nor justifies their behavior. He simply allows them to live, fully, in all their messiness—to be maddening and heartbreaking, funny and sad, foolish and wise.

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